Signs of Poor Anger management

Poor anger management in kids often is a big problem for teachers and a main source of counseling referrals. Observable behaviors such as yelling, hitting, or throwing objects may indicate a student’s struggle to regulate their emotions. Frequent disruptive outbursts not only affect the child’s own learning experience but also create a hostile and distracting environment in the classroom, impacting the educational journey of their peers and the stress level of their teacher.

Social Implications of Poor Anger Management

Poor anger management in kids also contributes to difficulties in forming positive relationships with teachers and classmates. A child who struggles to control their anger might isolate themselves or be perceived as aggressive, making it challenging for them to collaborate on group projects or engage in cooperative activities. This social isolation can further impact their academic experience, hindering their ability to participate in class discussions, seek help when needed, or form meaningful connections with those who can support their learning.

Learning and Academic Consequences of Poor Anger Management

The consequences of poor anger management can also impact academic performance. Children who are unable to effectively manage their emotions find it challenging to concentrate, complete assignments, or perform well on tests. Chronic anger and frustration can negatively impact cognitive functions, impairing the child’s ability to focus, retain information, and problem-solve effectively. As a result, academic achievement often suffers, potentially leading to a cycle of frustration, decreased self-esteem, and further difficulties in school.

Activities that can Support Improving Anger Management Skills for Kids

As a school psychologist and creator of a variety of tools that target Anger Management, I have come to see that patience and repetition is the key. No one activity will magically turn on the lightbulb for a child and help them realize the short-term and long-term consequences of poor emotional regulation. This is where your role as the counselor, parent, or teacher comes in. By providing a variety of tools, information, instruction, practice, and strategies, students can learn to self-regulate their emotions.

Once they can learn to change their thinking patterns, calm their minds and bodies, and self-reflect, they will begin to see the positive consequences of regulating their own emotions, particularly the emotion of anger.

Here are 16 of the different activities and tools that can support your student or child.

Just Click on the Pics to learn more about each activity or tool!


Tools that I use for students with poor Anger management include the Anger Thermometer, Breathing Technique Cards, and Behavior Systems. These tools require a bit of training on both he student end and the teacher end for implementing the behavior systems, but they have all been successful with my students that I support. By training, I mostly mean a video lesson or two, which are included in the products as links to YouTube videos that explain how to do the different breathing strategies and use the anger thermometer.

Here’s the Anger Thermometer. It’s helpful because it helps kids think about their emotional state and then gives suggestions on strategies to help regulate those emotions when they start to escalate.

Social Stories:

Help your students learn about emotions and strategies for controlling emotions with these Social Story Coloring Books. The goal of these social stories are to share information in a way that makes sense to children in order to help them understand their own experiences. The stories are in first person, which encourages the development of empathy and understanding for when the students have BIG EMOTIONS.

These coloring books can be used in a counseling sessions as an activity and/or in the classroom as a tool for reminding the child how to use strategies for regulating their emotions. They are great for teachers, school psychologists, and counselors of preschool through 5th grade students generally, and/or students with disabilities.


Here is my favorite type of counseling or Social Emotional Learning Activity for counseling sessions. All of my students approve too, and so will yours! Most of these games are super low-prep, with just printing and maybe laminating or cutting out cards. I try to laminate all of my games, so they are ready to go and have lasting use. Because everything is printable, just use an accordion file folder to keep everything all together.

Check out each game below by clicking on the pic to learn more and get for your counseling toolbox.


If you haven’t checked out the Counseling Fanny Pack of Fun YouTube Channel, then take a moment to see these video-game activities that teach kids about Emotions, Anger Management, and Behaviors that are all….FREE!

BUNDLES and Curriculums for Anger Management:

If you are looking to save money, planning time, and effort in putting together your own curriculums week after week, then getting a Bugle or Pre-made Curiculum can really help YOU!…and your students! Just click on the pictures to see everything that is included in these Bundles or Curriculums that focus on teaching kids ANGER Management Skills!

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